If I had the time
This is one of our favorite excuses. “If I had the time,” I would do this or that.
You say you have so “little time,” but have you noticed how you still find the time to eat, sleep and drink every day? Do you know why? Clearly because if you don’t do these things your body will eventually get sick and die. In other words, they are vital.
Therefore, you will only find the time to do something according to how important it is to you.
If your marriage was of such importance, you would find the time to invest in it, make the necessary changes and repairs to make it better.
If your health and family were more important to you than the fake sense of pleasure from smoking, drinking, or any other addiction, you would find the time and strength to go to the doctor, go through a treatment, exercise everyday and stop everything that harms your body and mind.
So the problem is not time, it’s the level of importance that you give to what you have to do.