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Thursday, February 17, 2011

Why people lie (1)

One of the quickest ways to destroy your reputation (and a lot of other things) is to tell a lie. And yet, why do people lie, even though they know it can backfire on them?




Watch this video in portuguese

54 comments:

namir46 said...

This blog is so true. At least I remember, lying to my mum about a lot of things because I was scared she wouldn't understand. But now I'm just honest to her, if she doesn't understand me, I try understand her, and take a different approach at the situation :)

Rhanna said...

Who tells a lie has only one master who is the devil because the bible says that the devil is a lier since the beginning.

Benita...x said...

This is strong because people never truly understand why someone would lie, it is more intimate than we think, but lying can not be our protector, God has to be.
So we must face our fears and let the truth set us free, it may feel like your about to jump off a cliff but believe that God will protect you and be at the bottom to catch you.

Xochitl moctezuma said...

I agree, i use to be afraid of telling some one the true they would yell at me or the things wouldn't come right,but at the end evrything came to light that was even worst.Now that i found God i give Him thanks that i don't say no more lies only the truth.

natalie89 said...

This message is more intense than one would really see because people think that to tell a lie is the best way out of things but when u really look at it no matter how long it takes the lie will catch up with you and the situation will be worst than it would have been is you had just told the truth.

jiva_tay said...

This message is really strong-as i remember i use to lie to people around me to either make myself feel better or them in this particular situation...but deep down it just made the situation worse. Because how long could you keep up with the lying. Yes the devil is a lie,its surprising how people do not know the devil can make you lie to get yourself come out of things! But we should all keep in mind that you must face your fear and stop lying and start to tell the truth as this will surely will set you free...

Bruna said...

I agree, I used to lie about little things. I was afraid of telling the true. now I understand who tells a lie is the devil. Only the true now :)


Bruna
Newark,NJ

julissa said...

Hi Bishop Renato , This video is very very true. The only one who lies is the Devil and Thats how he gets people to do what he wants and push God Aside. I learned was we shouldn't be afraid to tell the truth becuase Jesus said the Truth will set you free. Don't be afraid to tell the truth becuase even if your going to get bad looks or other things . By you telling the truth God will reward you in the end. God Bless ,

Julissa Rojas
Lynn,Ma
Candidate for Sisterhood

Carla said...

There are so many people that lie and it is so much part of everyday life that its diffcult to say the truth. May everyone follow the Bishops advice and face their fear. and this is for me too.

Amen,
Carla Cambio

Reynape Tiglao said...

This is so true bishop.

The reason why most of the people lie because of the fears. But it says if you say the truth it will set you free from our bad conscience.

And if people discovered that we lied against them of course they cannot rust us anymore. So its better to say the truth even it is so hard.


God bless
Reynafe- UCKG Manila

Georgina said...

Lying is something that I am struggling with. I am not a compulsive liar; just a victim of a bad work environment. At work I am practically encouraged to lie. My manager is a lot older than me and tries to instill her hostile, cynic personality in me. I am told to tell our clients things that are not true. And I am SOOOO uncomfortable with it. The business is failing and is on the brink of closing down. It does not surprise me. God is not going to bless anything that is far from Him. I've stated that lying is not necessary, and I've made my opinion clear, but somehow it seems like I am placed in those situations often. I am not afraid of losing my job. It is an excellent paying job considering the economy. What good is the job, though, when I am jeopardizing my salvation? I have grown so much to the point where I am willing to walk away because it is definitely not worth it to me to be someone far from what I am striving for!

Silindele said...

Its amazing how easy it is tell a little lie but the sad thing is it grows till u can't handle it anymore. Yes Bishop what you say is so true lies are not an option. I can testify to the trouble lies can bring in a person's life, you loose the trust of friends and family. Lies are not worth beimg part of a christian's vocab. I decide to stick to the truth no matter how much trouble I may get into but in the end the truth will always lead to freedom and peace of mind.

jenny said...

Dear Bishop,

People lie for fear, try to get out of the bad situation that they can be. This will be the only solution for the problems, but the things is another problem may rise again. therefore it is unlimited problems. The best things to do is to say the truth, even if it's hurt at least I did my part of being honest.

Jennifer Croydon

leidiany said...

when a person lie God is not the father of that person the father of that person is he devil because the devil is the father of lie. so even when the trust hurts we have to be strong and tell the trust not the lie.

davinanunez said...

This blog is straight forward and made me think back to when I was in the world and use to lie,it useto backfire alot and I mostly scared to tell the truth because I didn't want to for the person to judge me on my my opinion.Thank God for the truth,because it's only by Jesus and the truth I was truley set free.

Marsha said...

I strongly agree, people lie out of fear, i remember living with my aunt and i would lie to her constantly, when she would find out that i did something wrong, only because i was afraid of what she would do to me, i would lie to her so i didn't get in trouble,but that never works. So lying is not the way out.

Sabrina said...

This is so strong! Lying is seen to be the 'easy way out' of difficult situations - but it really isn't. As the saying goes, "honesty is the best policy." Sabrina, Hackney.

Joyce said...

I believe that it is true when it is said that the reason behind a lie is FEAR. For me this was attributed to the fear of the consequences of telling the truth. The fear of not knowing the reaction that would be received from the other person and the lack of control over their response. “Keep them Sweet” sprang to mind. However, when I started to take the first steps to telling the truth regardless of the consequences that would be received from telling the truth due to the fear of God, I found out that it wasn't so bad. In fact although the person had a right to be angry or displeased about what was being said to them, I found that they respected you more for telling the truth and that their response wasn't as bad as I imagined it to be. In some situations the person was stunned by the honest response being given as if they expected you to make up a story or lie, thus had nothing to say to the truth that was given to them. Overall I felt more at peace and free afterwards rather than feeling convicted every time I saw a person that I told a lie to. Therefore, it is indeed important to tell the truth no matter the consequences and although our flesh tries to lead us astray by making us think that it would be best to lie for our own personal gain and ‘protection’, telling the truth takes a weight off your shoulders and really does set you free.

AmatesClau said...

I remember me lying to my friends mom and dad I was just scared of what they will think of me;and my parents I was scared of them getting mad this is why I use to lie.But now I just say whats true i try to understand em their point of view even do is hard not to lie.But I always think God don't like me lying so just be honest.

amatesd said...

I agree a lot with this post and I think its very true. Many people do not notice that when they lie that it looks wrong and it makes them look bad too. When I lie its because im scared of getting in trouble or for people to think bad of me,but now I know that the truth is the only way your going to look good. Thank you Bishop Renato.

Shandre said...

I think people generally lie because of fear and also because they do not trust in God and that no matter what happens He is with them.Lying is like choosing the easy way out,but every lie will be brought to the light and be revealed one day.

naomi said...

This Blog is so true, I believe that lying is the worse option someone can do, it just allows for a deeper hole to be buried. So despite how hard a situation may be we should be honest and tell the truth.

eldy_b611 said...

This is true and i remember the times i lied so i wouldn't have to deal with more drama

Sylviah said...

whenever we open our mouth to speak,we should speak life.

pearl barbara said...

The Bible says that the devil is the father of lies. He is the one who tells that it is better to lie so that we do not get into trouble. The funny thing is, lies always get us into more trouble than telling the truth. PEARL BARBARA KOLOI

candy said...

So true revealing to us the origin of lie and seems normal to everyone. We have to face the thing we are afraid of and rebuke it immediately so that we can be too far making lies as a habit. Good lesson so far can't wait for part two.

Candy Manila Philippines =)

Marlen said...

This was a strong word and yes you are right I use to lie to my parents because I wasn't doing good and I was afraid of the consequences and I use to also lie to my friends because I was afraid of they not liking me for who I was. But now I am who I am and I don't mind what they have to say.

Damaris said...

Nowadays lying has become a normal thing to people. It might save them from a problem a day or two but later it comes back at them and destroys the person image.

sinethemba said...

Thank you bishop

Its so true people want to save their own skin, instead of telling the truth no matter what.

Triana ! said...

thats a very good question.. a lie can lead to many thing even death and you can only serve one father God or the devil. And the father of lies in satan.
Thanyou whoow

Tillyah said...

This is true because its such a norm noadays to lie for no reason when you can just simply tell the truth. I sometimes would tell a lie witout realising and have to correct myself and take it back. its hard but knowing that lying is from the devil helps me to rebuke it from my tongue. Its just that we need to think about what we say before we say it.

Sigourney said...

Honestly, I have also lie to people as well, its something I am truly really working hard on. I really don't understand why people truly lie, like whats the purpose, because as you lie, you make the situation worst than what it is!! Its just better to tell the truth!! Even the bible mention if you tell the truth, the truth will set you FREE!! I truly learn my lesson, Now I tell the truth.

tsucane said...

Even though we are aware of the cosequences of telling lies I gues when facing a situation were one have to tell the truth one thinks of keeping their repution to save their skin.

Thank you
Yolanda

judy witbooi said...

For those who do not have the fear of God lying becomes a habit because they not have a covanant with God and they do not have the character of Jesus.

Thank you
Judy

Jackie...x said...

The thought of lying out of fear maske complete sense. I can even remember lying to friends because i feared them losing resect for me or even the fear of losing them as friends so analysing what you are afraid of and why makes a lot of sense as the first step to stop lying.

elizeth_miranda said...

Often times we lie because we fear of the consequence telling the truth will have. We don't realize that by lying we just make it worst, at the end the truth will be revealed and we just end up with a bad reputation. It not easy to always say the truth but at least you know for sure that people don't see you as a liar and that itself is worth a lot.

Sheena Ibeh said...

For me, I used to lie just to get me out of trouble or a situation quickly and this is why many people lie, to quickly get out of situations and 'hopefully' never having to face the truth. Ironically, to tell a lie is easy but to find a way out of it will completely and utterly destroys a persons life if not dealt with.

Momento Mulher said...

this is true, when the person is not strong enough to face problems... the lie is a refuge , so The only way to overcome the lies is to identify what makes him afraid and why he is not able to face his own reality.

blanca7one said...

This video open my mind to learn more about why people lie. To find out the main reason for lying is fear.we need to put in practice our honesty to give us the freedom from fear.

Iracelma said...

Many people think that the reason why they lie is because it a way of life and that there is nothing wrong in doing so, so much so that like you said Bishop now a days everywhere you go or every one see (in the world of course) finds lying a normal thing.

And there were times which I wondered why lie, what good will it do to you if it catches up with you? But now I know that the reason why people lie is due to FEAR of something and until they find out what this fear is and beat this fear they will always continue to lie.

Thank you

Sophy said...

Well I think the reason why people lie is that they have learned to protect themselves, no matter what the cost is. its easy for people to lie because they have full control over their words... but as we grow wiser by accepting Jesus, we realize the intensity of damage caused by lies. we then accept God's protection upon our lives and let Him have full control over our words: He speaks through us and He speaks no lie

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Jhaun-Neiki kk Josephs said...

This blog post is so amazingly true!

As you said Bishop its we lie because we are afraid of someone and something!

I remember on new years day 3 years ago, an accident happened within my home and my dad was going to prison for what he had done!

As the eldest of the children he has I saw everything that happened from the fight to the bitten of ear from my stepmum. This happened when I was in church and trying to grow in my faith

I was summoned into court to testify about what had happened, and I lied that I didn't see anything. The point was I was scared of my dad at that time and I was also scared that my dad would go into prison.

I felt so bad afterwards and that was the changing point of my life...from lying

Jhaun-neiki Josephs
Uckg, Croydon
London, England

Melissa said...

it is so true that lieing becomes a habit to many people but if you have the spirit of God you Know its wrong to lie no matter what you facing

reneilwe said...

Its amazing how easy it is to tell a little lie but the sad thing is it grows till u can't handle it anymore. A lie gives birth to more lies and a person can be so addicted to it without realizing. Growing up i used to lie alot thinking that i was protecting myself from being punished by my parents but i only brought more pain to myself. I thank God for His forgiveness and for my change.

debora said...

I have never thought about why people lie, but watching this video it makes perfect sense. The reason being is because if we weren't scared of something, e.g. getting into trouble or what others may think of us, then we won't lie. However when we are fearful the tendency is to lie when the opportunity comes. In addition I had never looked in over coming lying like this, but its very basic steps, but very true and obvious when we actually take the time to think about it. But, only those who really want to change will take the necessary steps to get there.

Tanaka Siya said...

its true, when i used to lie, i did it to protect myself, family secrets and friends. the truth was either going to get myself or my peers into trouble. So we even believed that lying was ok as long as it was for a good cause...How decieved we were. ying is WRONG no matter what. i used to also say small lie and big lie and one day i learnt that there is no meassure a lie is a lie.

Jasreen Cargill said...

When you lie you destroy your reputation. They say there occations when you can lie it’s not as bad in there eyes if it's a small lie, white lie but there all the same. Lying is something normal nowadays, But the thing is lying will Eventually catch you up! From then on people will not be able to trust, speak to you; they will distance there selves from you because your not trusted. The father of All lie's is the devil so when you lie who is your father?..

Busie said...

And Bishop is so sad you know, the moment you lie the moment the devil wins and been happy for that and on the other side Jesus is so hurt of that.

afrika said...

This is so true bishop becouse people lie though they know it may backfire but becouse they want to excape in that situation and they end up lying.i have learned that when i lie i speak the language of the divil,so i've decided to tell the truth all time.thank you bishop

tsefara said...

The truth will always set us free,but what the devil is doing is to make us scare us not to tell the truth.I agree with you bishop,that only if we know what we are afraid of and why are we afraid of it,we wont overcome lies and stand for the truth even if it hurts.

amanda said...

It seems to be easier to lie, than to go through the consequences of our mistakes. And that is why many people do it. They try to avoid the punishment they might go through for doing something wrong and forget that the lie they told is like planting a seed. It's going to grow and only to explode when they least expect and the punishment will be greater than when they had told the truth at first. It might seem as though we are off the hook when the first lie we told seems to pull us through, but then we have to continue telling more lies to cover our paths so that we don't become exposed of our mistakes. But lies are what destroy many relationships, marriages and families, and it is hard for one to regain all that trust once it has been lost.

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