One way or another, you pay

It's not a question of IF you will sacrifice, it's a question of WHAT FOR.

A message from where Moses met with God.

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Marriage and sharing

“I feel really distant from my husband,” she said. “We don’t seem to have anything in common anymore.”

Many couples grow apart and don’t know why they feel disconnected. Here’s why: They’ve stopped sharing. The way it usually begins is they stop doing things together and start pursuing their own goals and interests. Suddenly, they become more excited and closer to other people who share those interests. The wife grows attached to her friends from work, with whom she spends 8 hours a day and talks about everything, not just work. The husband feels much closer to his long-time high school buddy who happens to be a fan of the same football team he loves. They share common interests. They feel close to each other.

Sharing is one of the most important things that hold a marriage together. You need to make a conscious effort to take an interest in each other’s lives. You need to let your spouse in on what’s going on in your life. You need to find out what’s going on in his/hers.

Sit down together for meals. Ask questions about his favorite football team, however little you care about football. Ask her about her workday, even if the details bore you to death. Hold hands when you go out. Talk about your future. Read a book together. Talk about expenses. Whatever.

And for the love of God, don’t let your spouse feel that you’re more excited around other people than around him/her.

7 Rules for Married Couples

1. We will never mention divorce.
2. We will not bring up old, unrelated items from the past.
3. We will never fight in public or in front of the children.
4. We will call a "time out" if conflict escalates to a damaging level.
5. We will never touch one another in a harmful way.
6. We will never go to bed angry with one another.
7. Failure is not an option. Whatever it takes, we will work this out.


From "The Love Dare"

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Mount Sinai Climb – June 2010

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Misdirected anger

Anger is a powerful force that can change many things - when used in the right way. Have you been misdirecting your anger?




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I can't succeed because...

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How to get your husband to talk

"My husband really frustrates me because he doesn't talk. When I want to discuss something with him, he gives me one-word answers or sometimes just doesn't say anything at all." How to get your husband to open up and start talking to you again?

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Your problem is not your problem

Think about it. Somebody — even more likely a handful, hundreds, or thousands of people — has already gone through the same problem you’re going through right now and overcome it.

Thousands of happily married people today used to have miserable marriages. Stories abound of wealthy and successful people who started out poor and often failed before succeeding. Former drug addicts, drunkards, and nobodies have reformed themselves and beaten what used to beat them. Even cancer and other incurable disease patients have survived against all odds.

What does it all mean? It proves that it’s possible. It shows that when you believe and are willing to do what it takes, no one can tell you something can’t be done.

So, if all things are possible when you believe, then clearly the problem is not your disease, or financial mess, or messed-up marriage, or addiction, or fill-in-the-blank. The problem is you.

Let me rephrase that. What stands between you and your success is your inability to (1) believe it’s possible and (2) your willingness to sacrifice for what you believe.

Belief. Sacrifice.

Focus on those. The problems will take care of themselves.

The Math of Relationships

In math we learn that 1+1=2, while 1-1=0. In the same way, relationships can either double your value or reduce you to a zero. How to avoid becoming a zero?

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