All by myself - Will I ever find somebody?

I look and look but don't find anyone suitable for me - will I ever find my lifetime partner? Watch as Cris and I talk about why many people can't seem to find their soulmate and what they can do to change their situation.




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The coach

The starting point for the coach is to believe in the player, in his potential.
Then he identifies his strengths and weaknesses.
He decides what to do to maximize his strengths and eliminate his weaknesses.
He is demanding, because he knows that every player is a reflection of the coach.
He disciplines with a firm hand but not to the point of hurt, because he knows the limits of the person.
He shows how it's done and provides the necessary tools for the job to be done.
He teaches.
He is a friend but not a buddy.
He helps the person achieve more than he could ever do alone.

Every father (and mother) is a coach.
Every husband (and wife) is a coach.
Every teacher is a coach.
Every boss is a coach.
Every pastor is a coach.
Every leader is a coach.
YOU are a coach — if not to another person, at least to yourself.

What kind of coach have you been?

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Does your audience understand you?

People listen to you because...

People listen to you because of your integrity. (Or they don't, because you lack it.)

People listen to you because of the sacrifices you have made and the things you have suffered.

People listen to you because your life is an open book.

People listen to you because you have succeeded.

People listen to you because of what you know.

People listen to you because of who you know.

People listen to you because they sense you are genuinely humble.

People listen to you because you have their best interests at heart.

People listen to you because you do things better than anyone else.

People listen to you because you show you truly believe in your convictions.

People listen to you because you understand their needs.

Is anyone listening to you?

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Are you relationship material?

You can only have a happy relationship when you're happy in yourself. Troubled individuals don't make happy relationships. Are you really ready for a relationship? Do you need to sort yourself out before trying to succeed as partner?

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I married an incompatible partner - now what?

Watch as Cris and I answer two questions from our viewers: I already married an incompatible partner, now what do I do? Does the maturity issue affect people of all ages?

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How to know if s/he is right for you (p.6)

These are the last two of the 7 areas of compatibility we talk about in this series. If you haven't seen the previous videos, just go to our channel and find videos 1 through 5. Plus, take advantage of a special offer from our sponsor.

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My mother died

What would a normal person do if she received news that her mother died? Cry. Rush to the hospital or home to mourn her mom and join the rest of the family for support… Drop everything she had been doing and begin to gather strength to overcome the pain of such great loss… Even after the funeral, she would need a few days, maybe weeks, to recover emotionally and get her life back into normality.

The Canadian figure skater Joannie Rochette received that news just two weeks ago in Vancouver while competing in the Winter Olympics. Her mom, who came to cheer for her, suffered a massive heart attack and died in her hotel room.

Joannie had a decision to make. Surrender to her emotions and abandon the Games to mourn and bury her mother — or ignore her mother's death and stay focused on the pursuit of her Olympic medal?

She chose the latter. And the world applauded her. In the end, Joannie won the bronze medal.

One day, a disciple of the Lord Jesus asked him: “‘Lord, let me first go and bury my father.’ But Jesus said to him, ‘Follow me, and let the dead bury their own dead.’ Then He went into the boat, and his disciples followed him.” Matthew 8.21-23

Let me first go…

That disciple wanted to follow Jesus but first bury his father. Perfectly understandable. Who would have condemned Joannie if she had decided to exit the Olympics to mourn and bury her mother?

But with His apparently heartless answer, the Lord taught that disciple (and all of us) the importance of having the right PRIORITIES. If anyone wanted to follow Him, he or she had to put Him first in their lives, even before father and mother. And when a difficult situation arises, it does not serve as an excuse to put God in second place. Not even the death of a parent is a good excuse!

“I have not eaten of the tithe while I was mourning, or removed any of it while I was unclean, or offered any of it to the dead; I have obeyed the voice of the LORD my God, I have done according to all that you have commanded me.” Deuteronomy 26.14

Eating of the tithe in mourning means using an excuse to touch the Lord’s tithe for yourself, and thus pushing the Lord to second place in your life. “Lord, I used the tithe money, but it was for a good reason.” There is never a good reason to be unfaithful. “Honey, I cheated on you with that woman, but she was just SOOO beautiful...” Has any betrayed wife or husband ever accepted excuses for being cheated on?

Tithing means that God comes first and that nothing comes in between you and Him — no matter the reason, excuse, explanation or justification.

After answering that disciple, Jesus went into the boat and His disciples followed Him. Clearly, the Lord didn’t give him much time to think about it. I assume the young man got the message and joined them in the boat too.

What about you — will you board that boat or will you bury your father?

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How to know if s/he is right for you (p.5)

The way s/he does things (culture) and his/her goals in life are BIG areas of compatibility. Get that wrong and you will be in for a lot of trouble in your marriage.

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