- Everyone is respected as an individual, worthy of attention, with specific needs and wants.
- It has a clear authority figure, who has the respect of all family members.
- It allows participation/discussion in decision-making, with final decision resting with the authority figure.
- Everyone understands and fulfills his/her financial responsibilities.
- Spending family time/doing family activities together is practiced and valued.
- Communication is open, honest, and marked by mutual respect.
- A strong sense of commitment to each other; divorce is never contemplated.
- Genuine care and concern for one another's well-being.
- A firm marriage bond, which the children admire and hope to emulate when they grow older.
- Encouragement and celebration of each other's success.
Tuesday, May 26, 2009
10 Traits of a Healthy Family
Love the money, hate the work
Many people don’t like to work. They hate exerting themselves. Remember your classmates in school that complained, “Why do we have to study?” “Why do we have to go to school?” “I’m never going to use this...” If you were that classmate, I’m sorry for saying this. But then again, no, I’m not sorry because you know better than anyone else what I’m talking about.
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Certain people run away from any kind of work.
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These same people want to be rich, to accomplish their dreams, to have a comfortable life, but they’re not prepared to pay the price for it. Then they start dabbling in fantasies: playing the lottery, waiting for a political messiah to come along and save them, asking God to do what they should be doing for themselves, blaming others for their failures… and their lives never change.
And as these people actually believe that it’s possible to have much by doing little, they're often the ones peddling second-rate ideas to the gullible. “Make money while you sleep.” “Lose weight without going on a diet.” “Get rich by working in your spare time.” “Jesus loves you, there’s not need to sacrifice.” Be warned.
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What these people want is for you to be like them — failures.
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If you really want a change of life, understand that you do not conquer great things by doing little. Either embrace your battles with thirst and passion for victory, or accept once and for all your state of defeat.
“Everyone who laps from the water with his tongue, as a dog laps, you shall set apart by himself; likewise everyone who gets down on his knees to drink.” Judges 7.5
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