That’s right. About 22 years ago I was engaged to someone else and felt that I was in love with her. We got along really well, enjoyed our time together, hardly ever disagreed on things, and attended the same church. We picked the month, went shopping for furniture to prepare for our wedding, and talked a lot about our future and dreams. There was just one little issue. She was 26, I was 18.
“So what?” I hear you say. Every time I tell this story, those who believe that “love conquers all” tell me that if we really loved each other we would overcome any age difference issues. (Except that the same people can’t explain why lots of fairy-tale marriages end in very real, painful divorces — despite the ‘love’ they had for each other at first. But I digress.)
The reality was that with a wedding and my lifetime on the horizon, I had to make a decision. Long story short, I let her go. Not because I doubted, but because I believed in something better for both of us.
Fast forward to 2012.
I have now been married to my beautiful wife for over 20 years and we’re both happy beyond our wildest 1990s dreams.
The point is that back then, that ONE DECISION could have taken me down a very, very different road. Every day it amazes me how one decision can impact your life for years to come.
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Graças a Deus que existe o google tradutor, porque do contrario eu nao conseguiria entender bulhufas de ingles e teria perdido esta palavra preciosa ! Deus o abençoe !
Bispo, mesmo na presença de Deus, buscando agir certo, orando, jejuando, sacrificando... é difícil tomar a decisão certa, por que as vezes o que é certo doi, e nem sempre estamos dispostos a acreditar no que não vemos. Por isso que mensagens como esta que o senhor vivenciou pode nos ajudar a tomar a decisão certa. Que Deus o abençoe cada dia mais e multiplique seu tempo para que o senhor possa postar mais mensagens que muito tem me ajudado.
I'm 26. I´d like to know what happened to her?
In June of 1992 I took a DECISION to change my life I let go of so much... But it has been the best DECISION ever....
A man who allows God to shape his life is a man who is prepared to accept God’s best for him. This is important in every area of his life, but even more so in the correct choice of a wife.
You calculated the cost of marrying your fiancée, which is what every man should do. If a man decides that he will not be adding value to his future wife, or his own life, he, as you did, should make an assessment of the relationship and act accordingly.
You discerned that she and you would not be happy in the relationship for long. You were smart and honest in releasing her to eventually find a man who would love her the way that she deserved to be loved and releasing yourself to find a wife with whom you would be happy sharing your future.
All the best to you.
This message is so strong sometime we have to look at the little think in a relationship and ask your self would it really work because i really like someone but he 1year younger than me and i think thats why he stop liking me i there understood at frist but reading your blog i realized maybe its for the best thanks.
This blog post showed me how important it is
To seek Gods guidence, but truely seek because if at that point you thought you knew what was best, it's true what you said your life would be a very different situation right now and to be honest it is always one decision that changes everything but it's important that when you make that decision u first seeker God.
It really IS amazing how one seemingly-small decision can completely alter your life! I suppose thisis why it is soimportant to have the Holy Spirit's guidance: to stop us from making rash or unwise decisions that can potentially be our downfall.
The power of decision. my pastor once said in the service 'bazalwane stop asking for prayers to stop smoking,drinking because you never prayed to smoke or drink. take a decision to stop and determine to stick to the decision. if i had used the power of decision a long time ago i would have been far in life. i beleive that in a decision that i make after cosulting with God because he will never mislead me.
The power of Decision! Wow, this is the first time I got to know the age difference between you and your former partner. Only God know what would have happened.
Every day we have to make a decision, we must use our intelligent; not our feelings/emotions.
Tivere Ologhoejebi
London
Sometimes in life we have to make tough decisions, but in the long run we soon realize that it was for the best!!!
When it comes to our love life and life in general there are decisions that we must make. It might be the wrong one or it might be the right one. How would we know which one is wrong or right? when we sit down and think intelligently about the situation and most importantly by being REAL with ourselves. Sometimes because we feel a certain way, we try to compromise our decision believing that we can work around it but the truth is REALLY? can it really work out the way we want it to? I say we have to be REAL.
This message is very strong. One decision can change your life forever, either for the best or worst. We must make wise decision, not decisions made based on how our heart feels and seek God guidance.
When you have the Holy Spirit God automatically guides you and God wont lead you thru a path that will make you stumble and fall.
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